Have you ever felt so disconnected from you, yourself? From who you think you are and want to be?
This is how I’ve been feeling lately. Health is my passion. Without a question in my mind, I know that health, nutrition, and wellness are what I am meant to bring into people’s lives. Yet, I’ve been putting my own health on the back burner.
After coming to this realization, I have officially declared this week a self-love week for Maddi!
Here’s how it happened
I was having a conversation with a good friend about how I have all these intentions of putting my health back in the front of my life and she asks me, “Maddi why don’t you love yourself enough to do that?” That’s when it hit me. I do love myself, but I tend to sacrifice my self, my health, my life, for those that I love. Rather than let down a friend, I let down myself.
With all my you as my witness, this week is about self-love for me! What does that mean? It means doing things I truly love. Making choices that benefit me first. It means not sacrificing things that are important to me for the happiness of another. It means taking care of MY to-do list. It means cooking. It means exercising. It means reading. It means taking time to think. It means breathing. It means resting. It means pampering. This week is all about doing things I WANT TO DO and that BENEFIT ME! It’s about being my happiest, healthiest, truest, hottest self!
Do you need some time to self love?
Do you need to commit a day? a week? to loving yourself?
Giving yourself time and space to be the true you?
If so, share with me, what are you missing in your life?
It has been nearly a month since I’ve last posted, but A LOT has been happening in my life since then. I’ve been traveling- like crazy. I’ve been living an unbalanced, caotic life. And the biggest thing is that my relationship of 3 years ended. I went from getting married to being single in the matter of a day.
Now let me first tell you that it is my fault entirely. I broke my best friends heart, but I had to, and I’ll be the first to tell you that I did some not so great things in this process, but I still had to.
This big change, this big decision, this big heart-break has made me do a lot of thinking. It’s forced me to do a lot of soul searching. I lot of digging into my heart and my mind and my fears and my tragedies. I was afraid that I was just a bad person, but what I discovered was that I have been a long time broken.
So what do you do once you discover there’s a 13, 14, 15 year old girl who is broken and trapped inside you? How do you heal her? How do you teach her that she doesn’t need to be wreckless? How do you heal yourself from something so long ago? I’m not sure I know the answer to this just yet, but I know I need to figure it out. I know now, that that’s why this tragedy happened in my life. Because I could never, can never be a good wife until I heal.
Here’s what I’m doing
I’m working with a coach who can teach and guide me to heal this abandoned broken girl inside me. That’s probably going to be the biggest key.
I’m also focused on ME and my primary food. Now, primary food is the areas of life that give you energy, or take your energy, but are NOT food. Everything from your relationships to your career to your spirituality. What most people don’t realize is just eating healthy and being active won’t necessarily be the key to good health or ultimate health. It could be, but what’s missing a lot of times is primary food.
Try this exercise to see where you’re at with your primary food.
For each category give yourself a rating between 1 and 10, 10 being fantastic, for how this area is going in your life.
Career: Education: Health: Physical Activity: Joy:
Home Cooking: Finances: Home Environment:
Social Life: Spirituality: Creativity: Relationships:
You’ll probably notice some really high areas of your life and some really low areas of your life. If most everything was a 7 or above, you are probably feeling really great about life right now. If you had a lot of 6 and unders, you’re probably feeling pretty low in life right now.
Where ever you’re at, it doesn’t matter, this next step will still elevate your health even if you’re already pretty good. Here’s what you want to do next. Ask yourself what would make my primary food better? If you’re finances were rated low, maybe something as simple as saving $500 or whatever would increase that area of your life. Or paying off a credit card, etc.
Here are some of mine. Feel free to steal some 😉
Practice yoga at least once a week.
Read the Bible.
Go to Body Pump class.
Pay off school.
Spend 1 hr/day marketing my business.
Eat out less.
Do a puzzle.
Spend quality time with a girl friend.
Cook seasonal food.
Spend more time outside.
Go to bed earlier.
Give thanks daily
Now that you’ve reflected, keep your answers somewhere and redo the exercise in a month and see what’s changed and how your life has improved 🙂
So tell me, What do you need to improve your primary food?
Where are you lacking? Where are you doing great?!
How can you improve those areas?
Share with me! Maybe I’ll want to steal some of yours 😉
In good times and bad, always be Healthy, be Happy, and then you’ll always be Hot!
When you think you know it all; when you think you know your stance; when you think you’ve figured it out; when you think there’s nothing else to learn; it will all hit you at once to remind you that you will never know it all; you will never stay in the same stance; you will never figure it all out; and there will always be more to learn.
Or so I was reminded.
What I’m Loving
This is a lovely magazine that I discovered in Maui, Hawaii while
staying at the Hyatt Regency Hotel. I’m not generally a magazine reader, but I fell in love with this while I was there. I read, I kid you not, every single article. I don’t think I have EVER done that or wanted to do that with any other magazine in my life. This isn’t some crap magazine that you waste your time doting at. This is a magazine the will feed your mind with positive articles and feed your mind with the healthy lifestyle you want to live. This is important, because what you are constantly feeding your mind is what you will be. Think Jersey Shore versus Extreme Makeover: Home edition. It does make a difference in the person you are and are becoming.
Yoga. If you have never done yoga. I strongly recommend it. I always thought exercise was about extreme exertion, but having read John Douillard’s, Body, Mind, and Sport, my perspective changed. (Blog on it here) My dear friends, Gina and Taylor, taught me sun salutations (a series of yoga poses) while we were at a conference in Long Beach, CA and I am forever grateful! Yoga teaches you how to feel your body, and how to breathe with it. It teaches you how to calm your mind. It teaches you how to be alone. It teaches you how to be part of nature. Yoga brings out all these beautiful things in life that I think are lost in all the modern gizmos we rather surround ourselves with. I can’t simply explain it, you must try it a few times. Start with a simple sun salutations like I did and build onto it. Videos Here. Plus, Adam Levine does yoga and he is hot! Just saying 🙂
Deep Breathing. I’m sure to some of you this sounds like yoga all over again. It’s really not. I do this while at work, at home, on the phone, outside, out with my friends, where ever and when ever. Most people take deep breaths through their mouth. Mouth breathing doesn’t get air into the lower part of your lungs. Rather, you should breathe as deeply as you can through your nose until you can’t anymore and slowing breathe out. Try it now. Deep breathe through your nose. Slowly breathe out.
You’ll actually notice you’ll feel more relaxed through your shoulders and you’ll also get a small burst of energy. Practice this throughout your days and see how you feel!
This isn’t me, but I this is definitely how I feel when I do it!! 🙂
Now that you’ve taken some true deep breaths, thought about doing some yoga, and want to get a new magazine, I think it’s time to say, “bye bye.”
Peace and love and blessings
And all the health, happiness and hotness in the world!
So the other day, I found myself driving in my car grinning ear to ear. As I’m basking in my own joy, I’m asking myself why are you so happy right now? I had no good reason. I had a terrible sales day, followed by a terrible appointment, I spent more money than I made, yet I was in utter bliss! The only answer I can give you is I FELT great!