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Love and Loss and Primary Food

It has been nearly a month since I’ve last posted, but A LOT has been happening in my life since then.  I’ve been traveling- like crazy. I’ve been living an unbalanced, caotic life.  And the biggest thing is that my relationship of 3 years ended.  I went from getting married to being single in the matter of a day.

Now let me first tell you that it is my fault entirely.  I broke my best friends heart, but I had to, and I’ll be the first to tell you that I did some not so great things in this process, but I still had to.

This big change, this big decision, this big heart-break has made me do a lot of thinking. It’s forced me to do a lot of soul searching. I lot of digging into my heart and my mind and my fears and my tragedies. I was afraid that I was just a bad person, but what I discovered was that I have been a long time broken.

So what do you do once you discover there’s a 13, 14, 15 year old girl who is broken and trapped inside you? How do you heal her? How do you teach her that she doesn’t need to be wreckless? How do you heal yourself from something so long ago? I’m not sure I know the answer to this just yet, but I know I need to figure it out. I know now, that that’s why this tragedy happened in my life. Because I could never, can never be a good wife until I heal.

Here’s what I’m doing

I’m working with a coach who can teach and guide me to heal this abandoned broken girl inside me. That’s probably going to be the biggest key.

I’m also focused on ME and my primary food. Now, primary food is the areas of life that give you energy, or take your energy, but are NOT food. Everything from your relationships to your career to your spirituality. What most people don’t realize is just eating healthy and being active won’t necessarily be the key to good health or ultimate health. It could be, but what’s missing a lot of times is primary food.

Try this exercise to see where you’re at with your primary food. 

For each category give yourself a rating between 1 and 10, 10 being fantastic, for how this area is going in your life.

Career:         Education:         Health:          Physical Activity:           Joy:

Home Cooking:           Finances:           Home Environment:        

Social Life:          Spirituality:          Creativity:          Relationships:

You’ll probably notice some really high areas of  your life and some really low areas of your life.  If most everything was a 7 or above, you are probably feeling really great about life right now. If you had a lot of 6 and unders, you’re probably feeling pretty low in life right now.

Where ever you’re at, it doesn’t matter, this next step will still elevate your health even if you’re already pretty good. Here’s what you want to do next. Ask yourself what would make my primary food better? If you’re finances were rated low, maybe something as simple as saving $500 or whatever would increase that area of your life. Or paying off a credit card, etc.

Here are some of mine.  Feel free to steal some 😉

Practice yoga at least once a week.

Read the Bible.

 Go to Body Pump class.

Pay off school.

Save $1000.

Journal.

Spend 1 hr/day marketing my business.

Eat out less.

Do a puzzle.

Spend quality time with a girl friend.

Practice breathing.

Cook seasonal food.

Spend more time outside.

Go to bed earlier.

Give thanks daily

Now that you’ve reflected, keep your answers somewhere and redo the exercise in a month and see what’s changed and how your life has improved 🙂

So tell me, What do you need to improve your primary food? 

Where are you lacking? Where are you doing great?!

How can you improve those areas?

Share with me! Maybe I’ll want to steal some of yours 😉

In good times and bad, always be Healthy, be Happy, and then you’ll always be Hot!